Chivalry moves that creep women out

Marcellus — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 02:49:16 +0000

I ran across this article at http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-8-so-called-chivalrous-moves-that-creep-us-out/. Written by a woman on what freaks women out. Just wanted to offer my opinion on a few things that were written in the article. Click the more link to read on

Ordering my meal for me. This has always struck me as bizarro, because chances are you don’t know what I want. The only time this is cool is if I have no idea how to pronounce something and you do.

Yea, I don’t see any reason for even TRYING to guess what’s on a woman’s mind, let alone what’s she’s hungry for. Unless she says, “Can you tell the waiter I want this while I go to the restroom”, I don’t toy with this at all. You’re a big girl, you can make your own choices. Just don’t try your best to get the most expensive meal on the menu just to be trying to take advantage.

Letting me win at a game of Scrabble/pool/bowling when you are clearly better. No fun! Please give it your best shot. I want the satisfaction of really beating you.

Okay, I’m pretty good at a lot of things. And if you aren’t that good, well, it will be a crushing. If you actually have the skill to compete, then yea, it’s on, I’m going to drop the hammer. I love a woman who steps up to a challenge. But at the same time, I realize that it’s probably not fun for you if I beat the living crap out of you in something that I excel at. It’s the polite thing to do. If I don’t let you win, I’ll at least keep it close.

Using a code term for going to the bathroom. Especially retro words like “tinkle.” You can just say, “I’ll be back in a minute.” I’ll get it.

I say it like this. If you can’t handle me saying “I have to use the restroom, I’ll be right back” then I don’t see you being with me for long. So no, I don’t try to “codeword” it all. I don’t know what’s up with guys trying to do that.

Pulling out my chair. Someone told me this tradition started when women wore loads of crinolines and, thus, scooting in your chair was difficult. That’s no longer the case. It just makes me nervous that you won’t push it in at the right moment and I’ll land on the ground with a thud.

I’ll do this when trying to be funny, but generally, no. I will open a door 99 percent of the time for you though.

Carrying my purse. Yeah, it’s heavy, but I’m pretty used to it at this point. You carrying it just looks funny. I have enough of a hard time with murses.

Ummm, no. And as a matter of fact, I don’t know ANY guys that do that. That’s just plain strange. I will carry the diaper bag or anything non feminine for you though.

Asking my dad for my hand in marriage. So outdated. Pops just shouldn’t be involved in our relationship. No one should know you want to marry them before they do.

To be honest, we may ask, but we really don’t care what he says. We just want to know if he’s the enemy or not so that we can take the necessary steps to deal with him. We especially do not care what your mother things either. We will do it regardless. It also lets us know if your parents will be detrimental to our relationship.

If you’re paying for dinner, not letting me put in for tip. Or get a round of drinks after. If I offer, it’s because I want to. I swear.

Here’s the deal. Men are providers and like to be seen that way. If offers, just let it roll. And offering to do it yourself is a VERY good thing. It lets us know that you’re not just trying to take advantage of us. But we’re going to want to foot the bill anyway. At least until we’ve been dating for a while or know you long enough to where we are comfortable with it. Truth be told, when a woman pays for a man’s way, it can be emasculating.

Helping me put me coat on. This is sweet, but it’s always awkward because my hand misses the sleeve or gets stuck somewhere in there. It’s easier to just do it on my own.

If I do it, it’s to be romantic and to really sneak in a smooth close move on you. I will only do this if I see body language indicating that you actually like that type of thing. Otherwise, I’ll just hand it to you haha.

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